When Finding The Right One

Everyone wants to find true love. Some are willing to take chances even if there’s a huge probability of getting hurt in the end. Some are lucky enough not to experience heartaches on their journey of finding the right one.

A few days ago, I had a heart-to-heart talk with someone about this topic. We discussed finding the right one in times like this where everything seems possible. Although most people are available to get connected with someone, it’s still difficult to look for your perfect match. It’s more complicated if both of you are desperate to be each others’ lost puzzle piece.

I believe that each of us has perfect matches and forever persons. Someone asked me about what am I going to do if I met the right person for me while I’m with someone else? But the real question is, “how will I know if that someone is the perfect one for me while the other person I’m in a relationship with isn’t the right one?” If you believe that the perfect one for you is the one you are now with from the beginning, then they are. You wouldn’t be with that person if you don’t see them as someone you want to be with, right?

We build in our mind the kind of person we want to be with. That’s why we must know what qualities we are looking for to consider they’re the perfect ones. It will not only saves both of your time but also keeps you from hurting each others’ feelings in the future.

I must say that I’ve learned a few things from my previous relationship when it comes to finding the right one. First,it’s not enough that you are attracted to their looks. It’s different when you know their likes and dislikes about everything. Do you share the same hobbies or music tastes, book and movie genres? Are you both an introvert or an extrovert? These may be small things for some but they can create some issues in the future since you don’t share the same things.

Second, the relationship won’t work well if both of you are not on the same page. You need to talk about where’s your relationship going if you’re together for a long time now. It’s not enough that you’re just happy with each others’ presence. Even if your relationship seems perfect, it’s still different if you build your dreams and goals together as a couple.

Lastly, you can’t change a person just because you want them to be the perfect one for you. It doesn’t work that way. People can change themselves if they want to be the right one for their partners. Genuine love is about giving up things that will prevent your loved ones from being happy.

Any thoughts? I would love to read all of your comments!

Thank you so much for reading!